5 Tips to Absolve Guilt

absolving guilt

When it comes to a loved one in recovery from addiction, there seems to be never-ending bouts of guilt. During the addiction it can be hard to see what you are doing to your loved ones, your job, or even to yourself. In hindsight, it can be horrific to relive the things that you did over and over again. Most people that are recovering from alcoholism and addiction will continue to beat themselves up once they know that they hurt the people that are closest to them, or even an innocent bystander, that are affected by the misbehavior that results from their addiction.

Having a guilty conscious can be the very thing that can hold you back in your recovery. You may get scared of having to look inside yourself, because it would be much easier to sweep everything under the rug instead of facing it head on. If the guilt is not absolved, it will keep coming up and keep standing in the way of having the contentment that you probably have always longed for.

Stop dwelling on it.

When you keep recalling the past, it is difficult to move forward when you are continuously moving backwards with your guilt. There is nothing you can do to change it in the present moment. Move on and focus on what you are doing now.

Stop the behavior.

If you change your actions, people will eventually take notice. Making living amends to those around you will keep you in better standing than continuing to take the same actions that you took while you were living in your addiction.  

Stop thinking you are a bad person.

We are who we think we are, so you must stop thinking you are a bad person. Every human being makes mistakes. Some actions are worse than others, but we all do things we are not proud of. Changing your thinking will help you to think more highly of yourself which will make you do things with more confidence.

Stop trying to measure up to other people’s standards.

There will always be people that will have higher expectations to what your actual capabilities are. When you were abusing drugs and alcohol the bar was probably set low for you. In your recovery, the standards that you set for yourself should be standards that are attainable and reasonable by being true to yourself.

Sometimes you will continue to feel guilt even when situations have settled. Guilt is a wasted emotion that can really bring you down if you are not careful. Get some help to process and absolve your guilt, so that you can keep progressing in your recovery.






If you, or someone you know, is struggling with guilt from your addiction, let Serenity Oaks Wellness Center show you how to absolve your guilt and breakthrough in your recovery. Our well-trained staff is here to show you how to adorn your soul.

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Abstinence vs. Recovery

abstinence vs recovery

Cessation of drugs and alcohol can happen differently for everyone. Some may quit on their own while others may quit for a multitude of other reasons that are not self-imposed. Regardless of why you stopped, the how to you stopping, can be the difference between abstinence and recovery.

Abstinence means to “stop something by restraining yourself from an indulgence”. This comes along the lines of white knuckling it, hanging on by a thread, being a dry drunk, or holding onto sheer willpower. Human nature dictates that most people cannot stop doing addictive behaviors on their own. They generally need to be encouraged, inspired, and supported to be able to accomplish long-term sobriety. Using abstinence as way to stop drinking or using, elicits no real growth keeping someone stagnant with any sort of recovery.

Recovery means “to return to a normal state of health, mind, or strength”. Using recovery in your sobriety, can help to you to learn why you drank and how you can refrain from getting drunk or high for the long haul. Going to treatment, attending 12-Step programs, and processing in therapy can assist you to get to the deep-seeded truths and secrets that make you feel uncomfortable in your skin. Receiving help and support from others can be instrumental by giving you the knowledge and preparation to keep your sobriety intact.

Recovery arrests an addiction. Although someone struggling with drugs and alcohol is not cured of their addiction, recovery gives them an opportunity to fill the void in their life by seeking a method to be free of cravings, triggers, the mental obsession, and anything that stands in the way of their sobriety. Encouraging growth through mental, physical, and spiritual aspects can bring about significant changes that can allow someone with an addiction peace of mind.

Recovery takes commitment because it is a continuing process that only happens when someone’s put in their personal efforts. This typically will lead someone with a dependence to drugs and alcohol in pursuit of a fulfilling life instead of just putting down the drink or the drug.

Being abstinence incites someone to stop using the substance. Recovery promotes a person to walk away from drugs or alcohol along with working towards changing their behavior from looking at the issues that caused them to drink and use in the first place. Attempting to better all areas of life instead of only being abstinent, can give an individual a healthier outlook on life.





Serenity Oaks Wellness Center can help your drug or alcohol addiction by getting you into a recovery environment. Our individualized program can assist your progress into triumph over your addiction. 

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5 Ways to Put Roots into Recovery

roots in recovery

There may come a time when someone who has an addiction to drugs and alcohol must stop doing what they are doing. Most people do not come up with the idea to get sober on their own. Usually there will be a huge red flag that waves in front of them to let them know that they cannot keep going in this manner. Whether the court intervenes, a loved one threatens to leave, or an addict get sick, the time to halt in their addictive behaviors becomes apparent to keep their consequences from getting any worse. Considering putting roots into their recovery is one of the best ways they can remain sober.


  • Establish some solid ground


Addiction is like a roller coaster ride. Sometimes you are up and sometimes you are down with no solid ground to land on. This chaotic lifestyle can keep an addict out there doing the same thing over and over. Establish a foundation that you can build upon. Use your recovery tools to help you get your footing into early sobriety.


  • Construct your spiritual tool kit


Getting together your recovery tools to use in a time of need is important. You never know when a trigger or craving will catch you off guard. If you equip yourself to better fight off the nasty obsession, you will know what action you will need to take to stay sober and prevent relapse.


  • Get involved


Being part of a 12-Step program such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or Narcotics Anonymous (NA), can get you in the middle a support system to help you feel grounded in recovery. Being a part of a like-minded group can keep you accountable to others in the program.


  • Use the principles


Having newfound standards to live by will make it easier to keep on track. Conducting yourself with a moral compass can show you how to make better decisions and have improved relationships with others.


  • Self-care is vital


You probably did not take care of yourself during your addiction. Now that you are in recovery, you should participate in your self-care. Eating healthy, getting enough sleep, drinking water, getting routine check-ups, taking time for physical activity, and enlarging your spirituality are all ways that you can strengthen your mind, body, and soul.

When your world gets shook up, the first thing you may think of is to let go of it despite everything you have worked so hard for. Having roots in recovery can be the very thing that can keep your sobriety going strong.





If you, or someone you know, has problems with drugs or alcohol we can help you to put roots into your sobriety by adorning your soul. Give our 5-week program a chance to assist you in learning how to stay sober one day at a time. Call us today: 855-652-2683

Reasons Why You Need to Go to Al-Anon

Reasons Why You Need to Go to Al-Anon

Alcoholics can shake loved ones to their core with all the things that they do during the tumultuous times that an addiction is sure to produce. You may think that only alcoholics have 12-Step programs to attend to resolve their issues, but family members, friends, or co-workers that are affected by addiction have a place to resort to as well. Al-Anon is way to teach people affected by a loved one’s addiction that there is a way out.


The program is designed to help you change your attitude and expectations of an addict’s behavior.

You should not let the effects of the addiction have a grip on your life anymore. Letting the addiction have all the power is unhealthy for you and for the addict.



The program can help you learn about addiction in its entirety.

Knowledge is power and knowing how an addict functions mentally and physically can give you some insight on how to successfully deal with them ongoing.



The program pushes you toward a solution instead of enabling the problem.

Struggling to stay positive can seem impossible at times, but Al-Anon can show you how to get into solution towards an addiction that you have no control over.



The program shows you that you are not alone.

Addiction can be a lonely place for the loved one of an addict since the last thing you probably want to do is to broadcast to the world the extent of what is going on. Al-Anon is a group of people that you can relate to in the way of addiction.



The program teaches you to stop keeping the addict from having to deal with their consequences.

Human compassion can keep you from letting someone you love fall when they are suffering. Keeping an addict from reaching their bottom can keep the addiction going on longer than it needs to.



The program leads you to build hope through support and encouragement.

You will meet other people that are possibly going through many similar circumstances and feeling the same emotions as you. The group creates a fellowship where everyone can share open and honestly what is going on to build a rapport to comfort one another.



The program resets your life to find the appropriate focus which should no longer be the addict.

You may be addicted to enabling the addict. With the help of Al-Anon you can put the attention back on yourself again.


You must take care of yourself first before you can be available to help someone dealing with an addiction. Learning that you can live out of the shadow of an addiction will hopefully help you to move on to a life that can be more pleasurable and fulfilling.

If you, or someone you know, has a problem with drugs and alcohol, call Serenity Oaks Wellness Center to get them the help they need. Our program focuses on the clinical and medical aspects of treatment. Our staff is awaiting your call to assist you in starting the life you were meant to live. Call us today: 855-652-2683

Reasons Why a Sensory Diet is Important

Reasons Why a Sensory Diet is Important

Sensory issues can explain how you react to sensory stimuli. You are either over-sensitive or under-sensitive when it come to your senses. There are 8 senses that are deemed to be affected when somebody has sensory processing disorder (SPD).


  • Visual – responsible for sight
  • Auditory- responsible for hearing
  • Olfactory – responsible for smelling
  • Gustatory – responsible for taste
  • Tactile – responsible for touch
  • Vestibular – responsible for balance
  • Proprioception – responsible for muscle/joint movement
  • Interoception – responsible for internal sensors


When any of your senses are out of sort, you may need to engage in stabilizing and focus activities to help you with SPD. A sensory diet, which has nothing to do with hunger, may be what your occupational therapist can develop for you. Every person has a different sensory diet plan that must be customized to meet their own personal needs to handle their sensory processing disorder. This specialized sensory diet is designed to personalize a schedule of sensory exercises that will benefit you daily.

Sensory activities help the brain to explore natural ways of encouraging you to expand or diminish your capabilities for processing sensory information. The brain may be instrumental in generating a connection for stronger conversion. The effects of a sensory diet will help in a variety of different ways.

  • Endure sensations that may be challenging.
  • Launch a less stressful way to handle sensations.
  • Reduce the need for sensory-seeking and sensory-avoiding practices.
  • Adjust how to react to emotions.
  • Decrease hyperactivity.
  • Increase calmness.

Therapists use SPD to not only stimulate sensory processing, but to stimulate without overwhelming you or attaching your sensation activity to a failure. Some of the therapies that are used can really establish an appropriate response to ease sensations.

  • Physical Therapy helps with sensory integration.
  • Vision therapy helps with improving motor skills.
  • Speech therapy helps with language modifications.
  • Listening therapy helps with sound frequencies in the brain.
  • Psychotherapy helps with overcoming anxiety that is produced by sensations.

Being flexible to a sensory diet is useful for helping you cope better to the stimulus around you that is causing you stress. When an uncomfortable situation arises, it is a good idea to have something to resolve the sensations like some specific tasks that are laid out in a sensory diet. You may still be hungry, but you can better manage sensitivity to the catalyst of your 8 senses and get them back to the levels that you need them to be.

If you, or someone you know, has a problem with drugs and alcohol, call Serenity Oaks Wellness Center to get them the help they need. Our program focuses on the clinical and medical aspects of treatment. Our staff is awaiting your call to assist you in starting the life you were meant to live. Call us today: 855-652-2683

When Do I Stop Going to Therapy?

When Do I Stop Going to Therapy?

You may have gone to therapy kicking and screaming as a way to get somebody off your back. Once you got there, you might have had a realization that what was happening during your therapy session was actually working and thankful for the relief you were getting. All the positive feelings you were experiencing could come to a screeching halt one day when you think you are ready to stop going to therapy. There are a couple of reasons that you may feel inclined to end your therapeutic means.


  • You have done all the work that you can to better yourself in the area that brought you to therapy in the first place.
  • You really need a break from the growing pains that you are feeling from therapy sessions.
  • You may not feel connected to your therapist which can make you feel like the therapy is not working and a waste of your time.
  • You just do not feel like going anymore.


Whatever the reason might be, being honest with your therapist about your apprehensions will be better than just stopping cold turkey. There is a reason why you went in the first place and honoring that intuition can make a difference in your future happiness. Your therapist is a professional and has a sense of duty to help anybody who is compliant and in need.

Take your reasons and concerns straight to your therapist in person to exercise the communication techniques that you may have learned while in session since leaving a message or not showing up can set you back in your growth. When conversing with your therapist try to stick to the reasons for putting an end to therapy by being direct and honest. Although the intent for therapy is to help you work through your problems, you may inadvertently help the therapist to assist their future clients with your feedback.  

It is fair to say that all relationships come to an end at some point, including with your therapist. Keeping your side of the street clean is one of the main reasons in seeking therapy, so you should do the same with your therapist. Try to part ways, if you can help it, in a subtle and calm manner. Thank the therapist for their time and advice and get on with your life. You may need to find somebody else, and if you do, there are plenty of couches out there to crash onto.

If you, or someone you know, is struggling with drug and alcohol addiction, Serenity Oaks Wellness Center has a 5-week program that can be designed especially for you or a loved one. Our partial-care program will adorn your soul by disarming your fears and reconnect you to the life you were meant to live. Call our staff today: 855-652-2683

What Commitments Can I Take in a 12-Step Program?

What Commitments Can I Take in a 12-Step Program?

Helping others is what makes the world go round. When you put your hand out to somebody in need it builds stronger communities. Since giving to others is so beneficial for everyone involved, it is no wonder why service is one of the principles of a 12-Step program.

Getting plugged into a 12-Step program takes some effort on an addict’s part. Working the program entails many different forms of accountability. A few of these 12-Step program suggestions that are intended to help members stay sober include getting a sponsor, working the steps, go to meetings, and be of service.

Service can come in many different forms such as sponsorship, showing up to meetings, calling other addicts, and getting service commitments. The point of commitments is to teach you how to suit up and show up for your sobriety and be there for others.

Be a secretary of a meeting.



Your duties will include starting the meeting on time and making sure the meeting runs on track. One of the most important tasks is greeting the newcomers so that everyone in the meeting can make them feel comfortable so they will come back.


Make the coffee for the meeting.


Coffee is literally one of the most important perks of attending a meeting. Since the late 1930’s coffee has been a mainstay that has been continuously included.


Setup or clean up a meeting.


Some meetings take place in a church or a rented conference room. The meeting must get setup and then it is imperative to get cleaned up to return the room exactly the way it was. Many 12-Step groups have clubs to have accommodate multiple meetings. With so much traffic throughout the day, setup and cleanup must be done by the members for upkeep.

Bring the literature.



Literature is a very important part of 12-Step programs. Pamphlets, books, fellowship flyers, and meeting schedules make up the majority of the literature section. Sometimes the only way a sobriety solution can be presented to some addicts is through reading material.


Answer the phones after hours for your local central or service office.


You forward the office phone line to your cell phone to be available to answer any phone calls that come through. People that are trying to find meetings or need help getting sober when the office is closed will call in and you get to assist them with their needs.

Depending on the commitment guidelines, you will have to check to see if there are any sobriety requirements. Some commitments can be taken right away, while others have a stipulation of being sober 6 months or up to a couple of years. There are a variety of commitments to volunteer for that will probably help you just as much while keeping your sobriety date the same – no matter how much time you have.

If you, or someone you know, is struggling with drug and alcohol addiction, Serenity Oaks Wellness Center has a 5-week program that can be designed especially for you or a loved one. Our partial-care program will adorn your soul by disarming your fears and reconnect you to the life you were meant to live. Call our staff today: 855-652-2683

What are Marathon Meetings?

What are Marathon Meetings?

People that have not been to a 12-Step meeting may have a different perception of what really goes on there. The stigma of homeless people drinking out of brown bags and using drugs usually comes to people’s minds that are unsure of what happens during these meetings. People are generally surprised when they come to their first meeting because they are unaware of the laughter and unity that forms in the duration of an hour.

Addicts attend meetings to be connected to the people that are similar in their paths of addiction. Sitting in a meeting listening to people share about what it was like and what it is like now can help people relate to situations that they probably would not hear at work, church, or school. Being amongst people that have done comparable things which might seem shameful to people other than addicts, builds a community of people that can heal together by sharing their experiences.

To explain what happens in a meeting can be difficult to articulate. There is a saying of “I was always the black sheep until I went to a meeting and found the rest of my flock”. Meetings should contain no judgement or condemnation, but instead extend a safe place to fall when life gets too unmanageable.

Holidays can pose anxiety and stress for addicts trying to find their way in the already chaotic events with family. Sometimes an addict needs to leave a tense environment and get to a meeting to regenerate their attitude. For this reason, 12-Step programs will offer around the clock meetings called “marathon meetings”. They are typically only made available around the holidays of Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s, but they may be provided for other special occasions as well.

Relapse becomes a reality during these holidays because addicts may not know how to cope with triggers and cravings that arise from being in stressful situations. To help addicts maintain their sobriety, it is better to get to a meeting to hear solution then stay in a setting that reeks of a sobriety setback.

Find out where marathon meetings are located by asking other members of the program, or by calling the local central or service office to get more information. Do not stay somewhere that is uncomfortable during the holidays. Get to a marathon meeting with people that will lift you up in your recovery so you can celebrate being sober.  

If you, or someone you know, is struggling with drug and alcohol addiction, Serenity Oaks Wellness Center has a 5-week program that can be designed especially for you or a loved one. Our partial-care program will adorn your soul by disarming your fears and reconnect you to the life you were meant to live. Call our staff today: 855-652-2683

6 Healing Foods That Help in Recovery

6 Healing Foods That Help in Recovery

Recovery is a time in our lives to get better, which also includes getting our bodies healthier. Once we stop using toxic substances in copious amounts, we can better ourselves by making healthier decisions with our food. We most likely badly mangled our bodies with the extent of our addiction, but the body is has an amazing way of rejuvenating itself in recovery. Getting proper nutrition in recovery is a fundamental building block to ensure healthy living.

Fruits and vegetables have necessary vitamins and nutrients that have what the body needs to help repair itself. Foods that are unprocessed also make a huge difference in the healing process of recovery.




This superfood has a long list of benefits to promote. The most notable to endorse for blueberries is that they have antioxidants in them. Antioxidants are curative in clearing out toxins that infiltrate our bodies during addiction. Our immune systems can improve through the detoxification of our bodies which makes blueberries a good choice for a healthy food.




We may think of pumpkin with the pumpkin spice craze that seems to impale our society during the fall season, but pumpkin is actually a great food to include in our diet throughout the whole year. Pumpkin has enough of Vitamin A that furthers renewal in our bodies through new cell division and helps keep our immune system in check.  




Drugs and alcohol do not process amino acids in the correct manner. A banana is consisted of tryptophan, which is instrumental for producing serotonin for sleep and relaxing, and helps combat depression.




Kale, broccoli, and other members of the brassicaceae family provide vast support in liver detoxification. Fat-soluble toxins can build up over years of addiction and their eliminating them by putting kale into your diet can make the process in the liver more manageable.




“An apple a day keeps the doctor away” and a goal we would like to live by to help give the medical professional a break from our addictions. More importantly apples contain an antioxidant called quercetin that provides protection and boosting to the brain cells during oxidation. Quercetin is most potent in the skin of the apple.




Packed with micronutrients that are essential for healing methods in the body, spinach is a healthy choice for reducing damage caused by toxins residing in the body. The anti-inflammatory benefits that spinach provides can help rebuild damaged tissue that otherwise took a beating during our addiction.

The body can be regenerated in any stage of our recovery by changing up the food we consume. Healthy nutrition can help to heal the body during recovery with a more thoughtful diet.

Serenity Oaks Wellness Center is here to help you, or your loved one, to learn how to enjoy life in sobriety. Our 12-Step aspects and holistic therapy can help you to come into your own while have fun doing it. Call us today: 855-652-2683

5 Tips for Eating Disorders During Family Dinners

5 Tips for Eating Disorders During Family Dinners

Enjoying the family dinners can be an agonizing experience for someone with an eating disorder. Trying to control the feelings that are caused by an eating disorder, can be better tamed by following a few empowering tips to use during family dinner.

Change the conversation.

People usually gorge themselves during family get togethers, so it is no wonder that people will start talking about dieting or gaining weight due to feeling guilty. You should try to keep out of that line of conversation and try to change it to something more suitable like asking if the Cowboys are winning or asking to see little Sally’s pictures at the pumpkin patch. Go into the kitchen and be of service by doing the dishes. Play a game with one of your cousins. The point is to remove yourself from the conversation to keep your anxiety to a minimum.

No compensating.

Many times, the mentality may be to skip meals to compensate for all the things that are consumed on a family dinner occasion, especially since that event is known for eating. Go about your day the way you do while in recovery. Even though the holiday is known for eating, there is no reason to change your healthy pattern of eating.

Pause when agitated.

The food may not be the only issue. There may also be the pesky family members that cause you stress, as well. Life will continue to have it challenges beyond this family meal, so you might at well start practicing now to overcome them. Take a moment to breathe. Call somebody that can help you to manage your stressors and work through them.

Ask for help.

Get somebody to make your dinner plate for you. This may not last for every year, but if you are feeling like you need help this year, then do whatever it takes to help you through the rough patches of the day.

Family dinners signify family, food, and gratitude. Eating is a basic need, but changing your perception to look at family dinners as moments for gratitude instead of a day of eating, can help you to be thankful for what you have rather than what is on your plate.

Serenity Oaks Wellness Center is here to help you, or your loved one, to learn how to enjoy life in sobriety. Our 12-Step aspects and holistic therapy can help you to come into your own while have fun doing it. Call us today: 855-652-2683