What You Show Know about Navigating Through Recovery

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Getting sober and staying sober is a tall order to achieve for many people with addictions. That may sound discouraging, however, the good news is that it is doable with the right direction. Many people have a hard time staying sober because they honestly just do not know how to navigate through recovery. They will try to stop cold turkey only to find themselves doing the same thing in a few days, weeks, or months.

Once someone is trying to get sober, they may be directed to go to a 12-Step program, such as Alcoholic Anonymous (AA), without knowing exactly what to expect when they get there. A 12-Step program is based off a set of guiding spiritual principles that outlines a design for living for someone who is in recovery for addiction. These divinely written set of instructions are conducive to showing an addict how to stay sober for the long-term. The model that the program follows to maintain sobriety is known as the 12 Steps to get the ball rolling in your recovery.

The first thing that is helpful in recovery is for you to ask for help. Even if someone breaks their foot, they need help to recover from their ailment. Addiction recovery is no different because support is a key factor in any successful recovery. Find a sponsor in your 12-Step program to show you the ropes. Although it may seem daunting to ask for help, your sponsor has probably been what you have been through already, so they will be happy to help you figure out what to do in your recovery plan.

Once you have picked that sponsor out, you must get busy with your recovery plan. Putting as much effort into your recovery that you put into your addiction, can be how you should gauge the energy you should use to stay sober. Start working the 12 Steps to be able to unpack all that baggage you have been carrying around with you. With the help of your sponsor and the 12 Steps, you can find out so much about yourself and why you were using your addiction as a coping mechanism to cover up the difficult times in your life.

Cessation of drugs and alcohol can set you free. You might be dreading all the work you may have to do, but it will be worth it in the long run because you are worth it.





Here at Serenity Oaks Wellness Center we can help you to adorn your soul by showing you how to navigate your way through recovery. Our innovative therapeutic and holistic practices can be instrumental by assisting you in long-term sobriety. Call today: 855-652-2683

Why is Sobriety the Best Gift?

Why is Sobriety the Best Gift?

The holidays seem to come faster and faster every year. Along with the quickness of the final months of the year, larger quantities of lights, decorations, and food are also purchased to emphasize the holidays. The multitude of gifts that are given and received over the holidays also seems to keep multiplying each year. There is much to celebrate during this normally joyful yuletide season, except where addiction is concerned.

Addiction can turn enjoyable occasions into a time of unpleasantness and regret. Instead of observing a holiday, the addiction will usually wreak havoc in some way to bring the festivities to a screeching halt. Changing the dynamics of the holidays, or really any given day, by getting sober is the best gift you can give to the people around you, as well as yourself.

Nobody walks around on eggshells as much.

Addicts are known to be entitled and belligerent while they are active in their addiction. This kind of behavior makes loved ones become cautious to what will happen next. Family and friends no longer have to be on high alert to keep an addict from getting easily offended once substance abuse ends.

Financial enabling can be halted.

Enabling keeps an addiction going while making the addict and everyone around them unhealthy. Giving addicts money to buy their mind-altering drugs, can put a damper on financial matters which can be resolved with cessation. Just because someone gets sober does not mean that financial woes will necessarily go away, but throwing money needlessly away on drugs and alcohol will have to stop in sobriety. Better use of money can be used for treatment, therapy, or a donation for a 12-Step Program.

Loved ones can finally get some sleep again.

Most everyone in the addict’s life worries about their safety and their well-being. Sleepless nights and consistent fear of what is happening to the addict ensues, making the stress levels higher than normal. Getting sober will eliminate many of these concerns making a full night of sleep become a possibility.

Relationships can begin to heal.

Addiction deteriorates relationships because of the negativity that develops overtime. A loved one’s sensitiveness along with the defensiveness of an addict, can be like pouring gasoline on a fire. Instead of productive growth, the trust is being continually broken. Sobriety can change a person making them more apt to being present in a relationship.

Sobriety is a precious gift that you can give to yourself and others, but you are the only person than can take your sobriety away. Make it last this holiday season to give the gift that keeps on giving.

If you, or someone you know, is struggling with drug and alcohol addiction, Serenity Oaks Wellness Center has a 5-week program that can be designed especially for you or a loved one. Our partial-care program will adorn your soul by disarming your fears and reconnect you to the life you were meant to live. Call our staff today: 855-652-2683

Why do Addicts Celebrate Their Sobriety Milestones?

Wh do Addicts Celebrate Their Sobriety Milestones?y

As a society we love to hail life’s victories. There are celebrations for job promotions, baby showers, bumper stickers that acknowledge a child’s progress and behavior at school, and trophies for winning sporting events. Special events like these promote support for one another which is a healthy. Not only does it pump up the person or persons being celebrated, but it also gets everyone else around them pumped up to be a part of the festivities.

Addiction recovery is a process that takes personal effort to get successful results. Being willing is what it takes in the beginning of recovery and can be considered a great achievement. The work that must take place in recovery is really something incredible to celebrate when all is said and done. 12-Step programs are known to be supportive of the progress that addicts make as well as celebrate the lengths of sobriety that they achieve.   

When you attend a 12-Step meeting, you may see a common custom that takes place amongst its members when they take chips or tokens for their sobriety milestones. Observing the anniversary of the day of an addict’s last drink, is a momentous occasion because it takes courage and a desire to stop drinking.

The history of the sobriety coin goes back to the 1930’s when a nun, Sister Ignatia of Akron, would pass out a Sacred Heart Medallion to alcoholics trying to inspire them to stop drinking alcohol. She would give an addict the medallion asking only for them to return it before they took another drink. Once Alcoholic Anonymous was formed, an AA group in Indianapolis was thought to have started the ritual of giving tokens in 1942. Over the next 30 years, the evolution of the sobriety chip would eventually turn into the most common of them all, a bronze coin with a raised center.

From time to time there may be controversy on why these medallions are given to people that “should have just stayed sober all long”. If a celebration is what helps continue the cessation of an addiction, then bring on the chips. Sometimes this may be the missing link to becoming attached to the day that shows the progress that an addict has made. Generating gratitude for a certain day also makes addicts thank the ones around them that have lifted them up every step of the way.

Today in sobriety, there are all types of mementos that are given to celebrate a person’s recovery besides a sobriety chip. Rocks, necklaces, keychains, bracelets, or anything that reminds the addict of their daily goal – to stay sober one day at a time.

If you, or someone you know, is struggling with drug and alcohol addiction, Serenity Oaks Wellness Center has a 5-week program that can be designed especially for you or a loved one. Our partial-care program will adorn your soul by disarming your fears and reconnect you to the life you were meant to live. Call our staff today: 855-652-2683

9 Signs Telling You to Get Sober

9 Signs Telling You to Get Sober

For most people with addiction it is difficult to get sober. Some addicts know they need to stop, but will not. Others have no idea how to concede to the fact that they must stop. If you are unsure if you should get sober, there are some tell-tale signs you can look for.

You cannot stop no matter how hard you try.



Trying to control your substance intake proves to be more complicated than you had thought. You have one drug or one drink and it sets off something inside of you that tells you that you have not had enough yet. Addiction changes the chemistry of the brain to makes an addict want more and more.


You have driven intoxicated.


Taking risks, such as driving when you are impaired, proves that your judgement is off when it comes to the safety of others and yourself.


Your addiction has strained your relationships with others.


An addict makes waves in so many ways from expressing anger and abuse, to secrecy and trust issues. Addicts put an enormous burden on relationships making loved ones enable their behavior.


You blame everyone else for your behavior instead of taking responsibility.


The capability of seeing situations for what they really are can be lost on somebody that is foggy from addiction. No justification can make that statement tolerable except that brain functions change while an addiction ensues.


You are unable to hold down a job or attend school.


Addiction takes away the interests and motivation to succeed in an area that was once achievable. Addicts lose their desire to be responsible because drugs and alcohol take over any ambitions that were once there.


You are not able to be social without being wasted.


Going anywhere social becomes a chore without having some “liquid courage” or “a pick me up” to help you get through it. If the only way you feel like you can enjoy being out with others is through intoxication, the addiction is taking you hostage.


You are in trouble with the law.


Addicts get themselves in all sorts of trouble. Child protective services can get involved, traffic accidents, possession of controlled substances, and a myriad of other violations can transpire while under the influence.


You have experienced withdrawals when you stopped drinking or using.


Having a hangover can be one of the forewarnings of what will happen during withdrawal. Once an addiction is in full bloom, the withdrawals get worse causing addicts to anesthetize to stop the painful and uncomfortable symptoms.


You abuse substances to the point of blacking out or passing out.


Blacking out and passing out can be a daily occurrence for somebody who cannot seem to get enough of drugs and alcohol. This can be a frightening side effect of substance abuse that can possibly lead to putting yourself in unsafe situations.

There is no stopping an addict in the throes of their disease until they have had enough. If you have endured any of these, there is help to change these destructive behaviors.

Serenity Oaks Wellness Center is here to help you, or your loved one, to learn how to enjoy life in sobriety. Our 12-Step aspects and holistic therapy can help you to come into your own while have fun doing it. Call us today: 855-652-2683

Ways to Navigate New Year Celebrations in Recovery

Ways to Navigate New Year Celebrations in Recovery

People really tend to be thankful on New Year celebrations. You get excited to make food to travel to a friend or family member’s house to eat until your pants will not button anymore. That is the epitome of how New Year celebrations are thought of. The dreaded part of New Year celebrations for some is the interaction that takes place within a family or with friends who are not sober. Those in recovery may have caused major turmoil during the time they were out there and the family may still have trust issues. Whatever the case may be, you can use this New Year celebrations to be a good example of your recovery.


No matter what.


Uphold the mantra of “no matter what”. This means that no matter what, you do not pick up any mind-altering substances no matter what anyone else says or does. Just because Aunt Edna pokes at you for your past transgressions you stay away from substance abuse – no matter what. When your older brother makes jokes because of your past behavior you do not drink or take drugs – no matter what.


Strategize a plan.


When uncomfortable feelings arise from others drinking or due to family shenanigans, devise an exit course of action that does not include you screaming at anyone and slamming the door. Instead, your exit should be full of grace and dignity.

Get together a few people to call in a pinch and let them know you will call if things get tough. That way they can reach out to you also since support is a two-way street.


Get mentally and spiritually fit.


Use prayer and meditation to help clear your mind of any negativity. Go to a 12-Step meeting or call your sponsor beforehand to get rid of the adverse thoughts and feelings that you want to keep away from the New Year celebrations. Be ready to dismiss any unfavorable conduct from others by focusing on your own positive behavior.


Use the holiday for what it is intended for.


Be grateful! You are sober and should be really proud of all that you are doing to keep it that way. Be thankful for the things that sobriety has given you and the things that may have been spared in your addiction. Write a gratitude list before you go to get you in the spirit of New Year celebrations. Thank the host before you leave to keep you in the same spirit of New Year celebrations to pass onto to others.

Take New Year celebrations one person at a time, or one bite at a time. Not only will you be full of turkey, but you will be full of gratitude for a New Year celebrations well spent.

Serenity Oaks Wellness Center is a partial-care program that can help somebody struggling with drugs and alcohol to change their ways. The fundamentals of our program are based on 12-Step aspects and holistic therapy to assist in showing them how to lead a more productive life. Call us today: 855-652-2683

Tips on Planning an Alcohol-free Wedding

Tips on Planning an Alcohol-free Wedding

Alcohol is usually synonymous with wedding bells. Most couples enjoy having adult alcoholic beverages served at their wedding to entertain their guests during their attendance at the reception. The alcohol may also serve as a purpose to calm writhing nerves that go along with cold feet.

Alcohol-free weddings have become more prevalent to cut costs, because of health issues arising, for religious purposes, and for people that are in recovery. There is nothing wrong with refraining from serving alcohol just to please your guests.

Have a non-alcoholic alternative for the champagne toast.

A common custom for weddings is having a few designated people to give toasts to bride and groom to bless their marriage. Champagne is typically served, but there are other options as well that do not contain alcohol. Sparkling apple cider comes in a few different flavors that looks, but does not taste like champagne including the bubbles. Sparkling white grape juice, mocktails, or even whatever someone already has in their hand will work just fine.

Find a caterer with specialty beverages.

Depending on what type of food you are serving, there is usually a good variety of non-alcoholic drinks to choose from within a specific genre.  Hawaiian food can have variety of punch drinks, Mexican food is served well with Horchata and Hot chocolate, and American food can include specialty iced teas and lemonades. You can also keep it simple by just serving soft drinks, teas, coffee, and water.

Make entertainment a priority.

Since you are not serving alcohol, spike the fun! Have games that people can interactively play like the Newlywed game, a Mr. and Mrs. Madlib for marriage advice, wedding bingo, or a fun game of I Spy. Get a DJ to get everyone dancing. Put up a photo booth with amusing props for photo opportunities.

Serve cake right after dinner.

Receptions that have alcohol can go into the wee hours of the night. Your alcohol-free reception can be a party that lasts only a few hours. Cut the cake right after dinner. Once cake is served, people get usually get an inkling that it is time to go home. Your crowd may thin out, but at least you will send them on their way with a sugar-buzz instead of an alcohol-buzz.

Be in acceptance that if somebody is going to drink, they will find a way.

If there are people attending your wedding that want to drink regardless of the reception being dry, they will. People carry flasks or keep booze in their cars specifically for these types of occasions. Unless they get super rowdy or are trying to drive under the influence, just have fun at your wedding because there is not much you can do.

Alcohol-free weddings may seem abnormal to some, but they can be just as fun. Not only will the celebration be well-thought out, but it can also be recollected the next day.

Serenity Oaks Wellness Center is a partial-care program that can aid somebody struggling with addiction. Our well-trained staff can get the ball rolling on your personalized recovery. Call us today: 855-652-2683

Can You Get Sober on a Court Card?

Can You Get Sober on a Court Card?

People come into 12-Step Programs from all walks of lives and for a variety of different reasons. Sometimes addicts need a different solution to help in their sobriety. Spouses, children, family members, or the Superior Court Systems may be instrumental in sending addicts to a 12-Step Program because they believe that the program can make a difference in an addict’s recovery.

There are many instances where addicts need to show proof of attendance of 12-Step Programs to convince others of the changes that they are making. Court cards are example of this process because they are slips of papers that contain lines for signatures and dates from the secretary of a 12-Step program. Although these 12-Step Programs are not affiliated with the court system in any way, the courts need evidence that the addict is willing to do certain things, including attending 12-Step Meetings, to follow their probation stipulations or to stay out of jail.

You may come into the meetings to sit in the back and not engage with anyone. Coming to the meetings in any capacity can be the beginning of a new way of life for you. Although you may have only come to the meeting to get your court card signed, members of 12-Step programs can begin to give you support that may be undeniable. You may not have any desire to connect with them, but just being in a room listening to what they are sharing can give you the ability to hear your story come out of someone else’s mouth. Being able to relate to others is one of the best attractions that a 12-Step Program has.

Getting sober on a court card is a definite possibility if you are agreeable to have an open-mind while attending these meetings. Your best bet is to get a sponsor and start working the steps to see where it takes you. If you are on probation and are court-ordered to abstain from drugs or alcohol, you should use your time wisely. You have to get your court card sign so why not make the experience a good one?

If you went to a meeting and asked for a show of hand of people that came into a 12-Step program on a court card and are still sober years later, you will find many people that have achieved sobriety in this fashion. You can be a success story as well, if you can surrender with a court card before you have to surrender to the court.

Serenity Oaks Wellness Center is 5-week addiction treatment where our qualified staff is instrumental in helping a loved one who has become addicted to drugs and alcohol start their plan of recovery. Every plan is uniquely customized to help them accomplish their long-term sobriety. Call us today: 855-652-2683

Can You Attend a Wedding Sober?

Can You Attend a Wedding Sober?

When you get sober there is the impending doom that life will no longer be fun. You may feel like you are unable to attend any events where drugs and alcohol will usually give you the ability to be more gregarious and engaging with other. This mistaken belief can be unfounded for some who has not ever been sober for social settings.

One event that most people cannot even fathom being sober for is a wedding. Usually the alcohol is flowing to calm the nerves of the couple that is about to unite in holy matrimony and then to celebrate the couple’s first dinner as husband and wife. It sounds like a good time until you play the tape forward and forsee your inebriated self ruining one the most important days in the couple’s life.

Being sober at an event like a wedding that is commonly associated with free wine and beer, along with champagne toasts to the bride and groom, can seem like an impossible task when you first get sober. Triggers and cravings may be ignited without having some recovery tools in place.

Be sociable and take a sober plus one.

Going to a wedding alone is daunting for some, but going to a wedding alone sober can be even more of a frightful experience. Recovery works best in numbers, so bring somebody that you can you enjoy your day and stay sober with.

Be proactive and have a list of people to contact.

Putting together a group by text or a group of individuals to call can be valuable if you get to a point where you feel uncomfortable in your skin and you think you might drink. Use your peeps to get you over the hump.

Be prepared and have an exit strategy.

Setting boundaries is great in recovery. This can be effective in planning what you will do if different scenarios play out. Although you were probably taught to stay in the moment, it is not a bad thing to plan for protection in your sobriety.

Be recharged and go to a 12-Step meeting beforehand.

You should be around people that have the same goal as you – to stay sober no matter what. Getting in some experience, strength, and hope preceding the wedding, can help keep you focused on sobriety.

Be dedicated and figure out where the non-alcoholic drinks are.

Once you get to the reception, find the direction to the alcohol-free section of beverages and stay clear of the bar to shield yourself.

Be involved and participate in the festivities.

Weddings provide entertainment so take advantage of what is offered. Ask the the DJ to play your favorite jam and show off your dance moves. Catch the bouquet or the garter if you are single. Eat some cake to get sugar-buzzed. Do it all in the spirit of being grateful you are sober to experience new things without mind-altering drugs.

You should attend and commemorate a special occasion such as a wedding sober. The new Mr. and Mrs. will remember your support, and so will you.

Serenity Oaks Wellness Center is 5-week addiction treatment where our qualified staff is instrumental in helping a loved one who has become addicted to drugs and alcohol start their plan of recovery. Every plan is uniquely customized to help them accomplish their long-term sobriety. Call us today: 855-652-2683

Best Ways to Stay Sober During Football Season

Best Ways to Stay Sober During Football Season

Football season is notoriously known for partying on gameday. Fans will tailgate, meet up in a bar that display numerous big screens to watch each game, or have a game watching party at someone’s house. With each of these events, alcohol and drugs can run rampant with the excitement of the day. You might think about the impossibility of staying sober during your favorite time of the year. All you need to do is strap on your recovery shoulder pads and helmet and defend yourself against those offensive drugs and alcohol.

Get a game plan.

Strategy is how football games are won, so why not put strategy into how you plan to stay sober. Go to a 12-Step meeting before the game to get your sober face on. Have a team that you can you call when you feel triggers and cravings come forth. Putting some recovery action into play will not only help you maintain sobriety, but it just might push you to initiate some necessary changes in how you watch football going forward.

Have a Viewing Party.

Invite some sober football fans over on your turf to watch the game. Include some of the aspects of the stadium atmosphere by bringing them into your living room. Enjoy some root beer floats and lots of concession foods. Even if they have a favorite team that is different from yours, you will still be united on the same team in recovery.

Adjust Your Tailgate Style.

Start your own sober tailgate group and be of service to others that may have the same struggles. Take a non-alcoholic beverage for yourself and let the people that you tailgate with know that you are sober. If they judge you, then they were not really on your team in the first place.

Get a Sponsor to be your coach.

You need support and one of the best ways to do that in recovery is to get somebody that can point you in the right direction and that will inspire you to get that “W”. The “W” of course meaning willingness to do whatever it takes to stay sober even if it means putting the plug in the jug during football season.

Although you should stop drinking and using while watching your favorite sport, it does not mean you should sit on the bench entirely. Have a good time rooting for your team while rooting on your recovery.

Serenity Oaks Wellness Center is a partial-care program that can aid somebody struggling with addiction. Our well-trained staff can get the ball rolling on your personalized recovery. Call us today: 855-652-2683

Am I Going to be Held Accountable for Everything When I Get Sober?

Am I Going to be Held Accountable for Everything When I Get Sober?

Wreckage builds up during times of addiction. Possibly mounds of it depending on the magnitude of what transpires during those disparaging times. People do things that can be hurtful to those around them in various ways.

  • Being dishonest to get away with something.
  • Cheating on a loved one.
  • Destruction of property during carelessness of being under the influence.
  • Driving while intoxicated which can result in accidents, hit and runs, or even worse fatality.
  • Irrational behavior can lead to malicious outbursts from bad tempered effects of addiction.
  • Lying to cover anything that might put the addict in a bad light.
  • Not being present during important events at work, at home, or in personal matters.  
  • Taking for granted relationships that need to be nourished on a regular basis.
  • Theft resulting from addicts that are desperate to fulfill the monetary needs of their habit.

Many addicts get popped for some or all the crimes they commit. Police enforcement and the court system can be responsible for doling out jail time, probation, paying fines, community service, or even going to rehab and therapy.

Family members may hold interventions to show their bottom lines of having to deal with the transgressions that have made the family become dysfunctional and unhealthy. Going to rehab, attending 12-Step programs, therapy, and staying sober may be the arrangement that will have to be met to be able to participate in the family again.

Employers may have had the final straw with unprofessional actions that may have caused suspension or even termination. Getting back into their good graces may have led to rehab, therapy, or proof of 12-Step Meetings to show that going to any lengths to come back to work is possible.

The addiction is what makes people do terrible things. If these things continue to happen in sobriety, then the risk of being a terrible person is going to follow. Being held accountable to infractions that were committed during some the darkest times in life are up to the person that committed them. Some of these circumstances might have been gotten away with, but holding onto the guilt or shame of doing these harms is a dreadful way to live. One of the ways to keep these things from happening again is to make amends for all the circumstances that occurred. Being accountable personally and to others for the past, can set the present free.

Serenity Oaks Wellness Center is 5-week addiction treatment where our qualified staff is instrumental in helping a loved one who has become addicted to drugs and alcohol start their plan of recovery. Every plan is uniquely customized to help them accomplish their long-term sobriety. Call us today: 855-652-2683