What Are Common Excuses for Not Going to Treatment?

Is Sex Addiction a Real Thing?

There are two types of addicts – those who want help and those who do not. Trying to get addicts into treatment may be a struggle, but sometimes after an intervention, they may realize that they are sick and tired of being sick and tired. However the addict finally gets into treatment really relies on their willingness to put all their excuses aside instead of talking themselves out of going to treatment.

“I am not an addict.”

Many addicts have not yet gotten to the place of accepting that they have serious troubles. Denial is common because who really wants to admit that they have a problem? The addict may not be ready for the change that will have to take place to stay sober.

“My family needs me.”

The dysfunction that an addict puts on their family may not be recognized by the addict. They may truly believe they have the best interest at heart for their spouse and their children. In reality, the effect of the addiction may cause the family a ton of distress. If the addict does not take care of themselves first and foremost, then they are unable to take care of anyone else. The addict risks the chance of losing their family because the family may have had enough and be done.

“I cannot afford it.”

There are rehabs for every addict that wants treatment even if they think they are not equipped to pay for it. Look for rehabs that offer payment plans, offer scholarships, or that may be free of charge. An addict seemly always can afford their vice, so there should be no excuse for not being able to come up with the financial means to go to rehab.

“I will lose my job.”

If the addiction has gotten so bad that treatment is necessary, then the job is probably already suffering. Although addicts would like to think they are getting away with their addiction, most likely everyone around them knows exactly what is going on, including their job.

“I’m scared.”

Withdrawals, accountability, and vast change are relevant fears for an addict that needs to be in rehab.
Change is scary, but change may be the missing element to staying sober. The real fear may come from addicts who are afraid of their world changing into something that is different than what they are accustomed to.

“It didn’t work when I went before.”

This is another excuse that really has to do with the addict rather than the treatment. A full-fledged addiction will continue to reign until the addict surrenders. Try a different approach to treatment and do the deal. Instead of being a statistic of failure, try being a statistic of success.

Now is the time to reverse those excuses that may keep an addict from getting the help they may desperately need. Do not try to be good at excuses, but rather put that effort into succumbing to the addiction.

You deserve to be ADORNED in your recovery. Life skills, coping tools, education, holistic healing, and a sober support system will help you gain long term sobriety. Serenity Oaks Wellness Center offers a comprehensive treatment program for recovering from drug and alcohol addiction. Call us today for information: 855.652.2683

How to Stay Sober on Halloween

How to Stay Sober on Halloween

If you are newly sober and Halloween is your favorite fall holiday, you may be nervous about going out to celebrate with your usual spooks. Just like any other holiday, people use alcohol to celebrate while addicts may use this as a chance to justify drinking alongside normies. Chances are if you are alcoholic, then you will not be able to drink normally and make a “ghoul” out of yourself. Staying sober on such a social holiday certainly has its challenges, but it can be done by keeping your sobriety first.  

Distracting yourself with activities that will help maintain sobriety is really important. There are many entertaining events to choose from on Halloween that may be abstinent of alcohol. For those events that do include alcohol, you must decide if you are ready to venture out into the realm of having others drink in front of you.

  • Talk to a friend, sponsor, or therapist to see where they think you are in your recovery process. See if they think you are ready to be where alcohol is being served or consumed.
  • Be honest with yourself about how dire it is that you attend social functions this Halloween season. Ask yourself if it will really be the end of the world to miss an event which could be all the protection you need against relapse.
  • Get a call list together before you go out and be willing to use it in an emergency situation.
  • Make putting your head on your pillow sober at the end of the night the biggest success of the day.
  • Hook up with sober folks and let yourself have fun doing Halloween stuff together in the spirit of sobriety.


  1. Hand out Halloween candy to people in costumes.
  2. Go trick or treating in costume with some friends that are staying sober.
  3. Buy pumpkins, carve them, and then have a contest to see who has the best creation.
  4. Bake and decorate Halloween cookies to devour.
  5. Download or rent scary movies to have a Halloween movie marathon.
  6. Host a sober party and bob for apples or have a cake walk.
  7. Get a group of sober friends to go on a Haunted House tour.
  8. Dress up in your Halloween costume and go to a 12-Step meeting.


Have fun on Halloween, but your sobriety should be your number one priority. Drinking on Halloween may enhance the event for some people, but for an alcoholic it may be another just another black out.

You deserve to be ADORNED in your recovery. Life skills, coping tools, education, holistic healing, and a sober support system will help you gain long term sobriety. Serenity Oaks Wellness Center offers a comprehensive treatment program for recovering from drug and alcohol addiction. Call us today for information: 855.652.2683

Should You Put ‘Recovery’ on Your Resume?

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Although it is not necessary to put your recovery on your resume, it is probably in your best interest to be honest about your recovery to people that are in a managerial role. You may be embarrassed telling a potential employer about your recovery, but honesty is the best policy. Keeping secrets or lying about the past before you even start the job may mean that you will have to keep covering up the lies and secrets ongoing which may become another full-time job.

Recovery means that you are probably in the business of being honest. If being honest will harm your chances of getting the job, then maybe your recovery information should be uncovered at a later date with the intentions of not keeping secrets. Look at the circumstances of the job to shed insight of whether you will be more successful with them knowing or you should go with the philosophy of “what they will not know will not hurt them”.

If a job requires you to disclose information on past situations that may have resulted in misdemeanors or felonies, it is a good idea to let them know exactly what is on your record. Many places of employment could be looking to see how honest you are willing to be. When they run your background check and find out that you concealed this pertinent information, it could be the difference of you getting hired or discarded as a future employee.

Talking over the situation with a sponsor or therapist that you trust, can give you a better comprehension of what the right thing to do is. If you are working somewhere that does not run a report on your past, it may be wise to keep your recovery on a need-to-know-basis and protect your anonymity. Some industries are known for their partying tactics. On one side, there is no need to be ostracized for being sober which can lead you to a possible relapse. Yet on the other side, letting your co-workers know about your sobriety may keep them from peer pressuring you into doing something that you are unable to say no to which can prevent relapse.

In all of life situations, including employment, being sober should be the number one priority. Trying to figure out how recovery works in a professional sense is important, because an income may be a crucial factor in supporting yourself and your family.


You deserve to be ADORNED in your recovery. Life skills, coping tools, education, holistic healing, and a sober support system will help you gain long term sobriety. Serenity Oaks Wellness Center offers a comprehensive treatment program for recovering from drug and alcohol addiction. Call us today for information: 855.652.2683

What is Chronic Drinking?

What is Chronic Drinking?

Most people like to go out to grab a bite to eat and relax with a glass of wine after a hard day’s work. While that image sounds lovely and refreshing, that is not how drinking is described for some that drinks to solely get inebriated. Chronic drinking is a stage of alcoholism that is characterized by prolonged, frequent, and heavy alcohol abuse. With the inability to quit due to the obsessive nature of alcoholism, many alcoholics have a variety of interpersonal and legal problems due to drinking.

Dependence on alcohol not only brings about withdrawals with the cessation of alcohol, but alcoholics find themselves unable to stop once they start drinking. Chronic drinking is manifested by genetic, psychosocial, and environmental factors.


Genetic factors


Alcoholic genes can be passed onto the next generation making them possibly predisposed to having an addiction themselves. Not everyone gets the genes that are passed down, but should approach drinking in any capacity carefully knowing the risk factors of having an alcoholic family member.


Psychosocial factors


Addiction can become an issue because of learned behavior. An alcoholic’s thoughts and behaviors may be skewed since they are typically not ready to admit that they have an addiction because they want to drink like a normal person.


Environmental factors


Drinking is socially accepted due to it being readily available and legal. Commercials glamorize alcohol and spirits, but do not show what happens when an addiction pursues. Marketing agencies are good at putting specific ad campaigns in specific markets to target specific drinkers based on race and gender.

Drinking alcoholically really takes a toll on the body. Not only does it weaken the immune system, but alcohol can also make the body more exposed to infectious illness by dropping the white blood cell count. Brain function is also affected negatively by disrupting balance and fine motor skills. When someone is a chronic drinker, they care more about drinking alcohol then they do about eating any food, making them be deficient in vitamins and malnourished. Major organs also get hit pretty hard with alcoholism. Liver disease and heart disease can complicate things for an alcoholic who cannot stop drinking.  

While chronic drinking is a fact of life, it does not have to be. When alcohol is consumed in access over a significant period of time, it wrecks your soul, your mind, and your body as a whole.

Serenity Oaks Wellness Center provides holistic therapies that can reconnect the soul, the mind, and the body. If you or somebody you know has a chronic drinking problem, help is here. Contact one of our staff member to get you on the right path. Call us today to get started: 855-652-2683

Reasons to Work a 5th Step

Reasons to Work a 5th Step

The Twelve Steps are a useful spiritual tool that can help you to “clean house” or take a look at what is going on in the inside. When someone has an addiction, it is very common for them to destroy everything around them while sabotaging their own personal integrity. Addiction is difficult to come back from, but the Steps have proven to help addicts and alcoholics transform their way back to better circumstances. Steps 1-4 will help you to admit that you are powerful, help you to connect to a Higher Power, and make an inventory of all your resentments and fears. Once your inventory is complete, you are now ready for Step 5.

Step 5

“Admitted to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.”

When this Step was initially rolled out in 1939, there was no actual terminology of having a sponsor anywhere, only another human being that alluded to using a religious person. The first pamphlet about sponsorship was produced in 1944 by Clarence S and called, “AA Sponsorship Pamphlet.” Over the decades, it has evolved to where most people tell their 5th Step to a sponsor. The shameful stuff that an addict or alcoholic does in their addiction, could make it uncomfortable to share with someone in the clergy. A person that may have done what you did and are a member of the program, would probably make a better candidate to share your 5th Step with.

Working this Step is vital to staying sober. Learning to be rigorously honest is crucial to being able to muster up enough humility to follow through with this Step. If you are holding back in any capacity and keeping something to yourself, you are allowing your shame and guilt to hold you hostage. You may be embarrassed and humiliated to have to say these things out loud, but it is part of the process that makes you become vulnerable to your Higher Power and to your sponsor.

Once you are finished completing your verbal portion of your 5th Step, it is suggested to go home and find a quiet place to spend time with your Higher Power. This hour is spent reflecting on how solid your Step work has been up until that point and thanking your Higher Power for the progress you have made thus far. The 5th Step, just like all the others, is important to being able to move onto your 6th Step. Your 5th Step will reveal all your character defects in all the writing that you courageously wrote on your 4th Step. That is why the Steps are meant to be worked in the order that they come in.

Serenity Oaks Wellness Center has personalized treatment plans that are based on the 12-Step program. Working the Steps is one more way to ensure you have a better chance at recovery. If you think you have a problem with drugs and alcohol, reach out to us. Call us now: 855-652-2683

Should You Be in a Relationship in Early Sobriety?

Should You Be in a Relationship in Early Sobriety?

Getting into a relationship in the first year of recovery is typically frowned upon. There are so many changes going on in your life that a relationship can distract you from recovery. Addiction usually stunts a person emotionally causing their maturity level to possibly be the same age as when they started drinking and using, which can create unnecessary emotional turmoil.

Being in a relationship is a big decision to make in early sobriety especially since the success rate is very low. Trying to figure out if they are “the one” should be carefully considered to prevent triggers that could lead to a relapse.

Have you run the idea through your sponsor, therapist or mentor?

You may feel better because you are sober, but that does not mean that you are emotionally, physically, or spiritually ready to take on everything that encompasses a relationship. Trusting somebody else’s instincts in early sobriety is a good idea especially if they have the best intentions for your recovery.

Have you done the Steps or therapy work?

If you just got sober and have not done any recovery work yet, you will be the same person in a relationship as when you were abusing substances. Trust the process that recovery has to offer in personal growth so that you can break the cycle of your past mistakes in relationships. The steps and therapy work will you give an opportunity to look at the patterns that were keeping you from having successful relationships in the first place.

How well do you know the other person?

Getting to know somebody before you jump into a relationship is important and may be something that you did not wait for in the past. Learning about their morals and the things that they believe in can help you decide to whether this person is somebody that is worth taking the risks of having a relationship in early sobriety with. You should inquire if they have a sponsor and if they have started step work if they are in recovery. If they are a “normie”, then making sure they are supportive of your recovery journey is crucial.

What is the rush?

Addicts are known to push instant gratification to the limit. Trying to take things slowly can give the relationship more time to cultivate in getting to know one another and becoming friends first. If anybody is trying to rush you into something that you are not ready for, it is okay to set a boundary that is going to be best for your recovery.

There is somebody out there for everybody, but doing in the timeframe that is good for your recovery is the most important aspect. You were not meant to be alone, but you should be with somebody that will grow with you and support your ongoing in your recovery.

You deserve to be ADORNED in your recovery. Life skills, coping tools, education, holistic healing, and a sober support system will help you gain long term sobriety. Serenity Oaks Wellness Center offers a comprehensive treatment program for recovering from drug and alcohol addiction. Call us today for information: 855.652.2683

Having Fun Getting Active

Having Fun Getting Active

Getting active and having fun may be considered an oxymoron. We may show resistance going to the gym, running, or – perish the thought – doing tons of burpees because of the work it takes get through them. Lack of time is another dilemma that prevents people from getting physically active because of the busy lives we tend to lead today.

Enjoying the actual activities that get us physical can encourage us to do more exercise. Having fun may be the key to getting people to be more active. The thought process of “if it is fun, it must not be exercise” should be banished from our minds. There are so many activities that get our heart rates up that are just as good as the traditional workout of going to the gym to do cardiovascular exercise.

Become part of a team

There are many teams that can be joined. Try an adult softball or soccer team. Form a 5K team that donates money to charities. Spartan races and mud runs are also fun for many folks that participate in them. Becoming part of a team means we do not have to do it alone. Being accountable is a great way to show for fun and exercise.

Be of service

Volunteering our time to local community projects can keep us active. Help build a house for the homeless. Clean up local parks or beaches. Work in a soup kitchen to feed the less fortunate. These types of projects will keep us active while we get to be of service.

Go for a walk

Walking has been confirmed to improve health. Take a hike. Visit touristy spots in local towns that may not have be visited before. Take a break during work and take a lap around your building to break up the monotony of daily tasks.

Yoga online

For people that practice yoga, it has been shown to be relaxing and healthy. All we really need for yoga is a mat and our bodies. Finding yoga online can be an easy activity to do in the privacy of our own homes. Doyogawithme.com is a free website that includes a variety of videos to demonstrate yoga. There are also many free YouTube videos that can accommodate our needs with yoga.

Let’s dance!

Dancing is a great way to stay active while having fun doing it. Turn on some music and jam out. Have your own dance party and dance like nobody’s watching.

Having fun can be easily accomplished while getting active. Be creative because if physical activity equals fun, it may result in consistency along with enjoyable health benefits.

You deserve to be ADORNED in your recovery. Life skills, coping tools, education, holistic healing, and a sober support system will help you gain long term sobriety. Serenity Oaks Wellness Center offers a comprehensive treatment program for recovering from drug and alcohol addiction. Call us today for information: 855.652.2683

How Can I Help Someone to Get into Treatment?

How Can I Help Someone to Get into Treatment?

A loved one with an addiction may have their grip on you with all the stronghold that their addiction can muster. Since addictions are powerful and incomprehensible, you are probably tired and feel like you can no longer go on in this mode. There is a way out that will not only take courage from the addict, but also courage from yourself to go through with setting your boundary to get them into treatment. Guiding someone into treatment may be a difficult feat to pull off, but can be accomplished with a plan of action.


Educate yourself.


Knowledge is power and can take the power completely away from the addiction. The more you learn, the better you will be armed to find out what it will take to get your loved one into treatment. Not only should you research the addiction itself, but also what treatment can really help the addict long term. Looking for treatment centers that can be most beneficial for what the addict’s needs are can make the hope for treatment a bigger reality.


Get together a professional intervention.


You may have watched every episode of the show “Intervention”, but you really need the help of a professional interventionist. Not only do they have the tools to make the intervention more successful, but they can be an impartial advocate for the friends and family, as well as the addict.


Stop enabling.


Enabling is one of the reasons that addictions get as big as they do. You or your family may have been fearful about the addiction and felt helpless to the addict’s demands. You should probably pacify the addict up until the intervention, but afterwards it is important to hold your bottom line. Take away the addict’s currency. Whether it be money, a car, a job, or a place to live, cut the addict off, or you may be the reason that they have not hit their bottom yet.  


Be supportive.


You must assume that the addict will be going through a tough time giving up their addiction, especially at first. If you truly want the best for them, you will have to put aside your differences to give them your love and support unconditionally. Once the addict gets into recovery, there will be a constructive way to get through all your past issues.

Many addicts feel as those they are not ready to give up what they love the most, their addiction. Stand your ground to not love them to death. By pushing them into the right direction of treatment, you could make the difference between life or death.

Getting help for a loved one is a loving and brave gesture. If someone you love needs help with cessation of drugs and alcohol, contact our faculty at Serenity Oaks Wellness Center to get them into our treatment center.  Today could be the first day of their sober life. Call us: 855-652-2683

5 Healthy Habits to Help You in Recovery

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Living a life in addiction most likely became an unhealthy environment over time. Addiction can make people form some harmful habits that can deteriorate their well-being. Substance abuse shatters self-esteem and robs addicts of their self-respect. Implementing a few healthy habits can make all the difference in how you view yourself in recovery.




Taking the time to write out how you are feeling on a regular basis can shed some light into what you are really going through and help you to work it out. Putting a pen to paper creates a magic that is unexplainable, but can provide some insight that cannot be resolved by simply thinking about it. Another good subject to write about it gratitude. Writing out a gratitude list can change a negative attitude rather quickly to one of thankfulness. Healing can be achieved by handwriting in a journal.


Reaching out


Sometimes we can be in the busiest place in town and still feel lonely. As an addict your natural tendency may be to isolate, but connecting with others will help you build a support group around you so that you do not have to feel alone ever again. Reaching out to others will help them just as much as it will help you.




Working out produces endorphins that can make you feel a natural high and a sense of accomplishment that is undeniable. There are many exercise for you to try to see which one helps you feel the healthiest. Yoga, lifting weights, running, or surfing are great ways to get into shape.




Learning to take things as they are, will open you up to seeing so many blind spots that you have been missing and that you have been accustomed to. You are no longer fighting anything or anyone when you enforce acceptance in your daily life.  


Eating Healthy


Addiction can take away your desire to nourish your body with things that are good for you. Eating healthy can be a great way to rejuvenate the body from abuse that you may have caused during your addiction. Food is energy for the body, so what you consume can make the difference in how your body will heal itself.

Healthy habits can be easy to form with some dedication and willingness. Making the effort to do some esteemable acts, can push you into loving yourself once again.

Serenity Oaks Wellness Center can show you how to take some steps into learning how to heal. Our holistic therapy can put you on the right path to start some healthy habits in your life. If you are struggling with drugs and alcohol, please call us right away: 855-652-2683

How Do You Heal the Addicted Family System?

How Do You Heal the Addicted Family System?

A fact of addiction – addiction affects every person that encounters it. The family of an addict is no exception. Typically, the family becomes so immune to the addiction, that the chaotic lifestyle that comes with addiction becomes the norm. Addiction creates a dysfunction that alters the dynamics of a family system. Family members tend to establish unhealthy coping mechanisms to combat the awful reality of addiction. Out of control and unpredictable conduct from an addict causes stress on a family. It may seem that the addict has the sole problem, but the family can also become addicted to enabling the addict’s behavior.

Healing the family system usually only works if everyone gets help for the addiction. Although some family members may not be addicted in the same capacity as the addict, getting sober does not take away the issues that may have been compounded during the throes of the addiction. The goal of the family members may be to achieve harmony within the family unit, but they are actually trying to control the unmanageability to no avail.


One of the first things a family member can do is to educate themselves on what can be medically described as a disease of addiction. Having a better understanding of what happens to the brain of an addict, can shed light on a chronic, but treatable condition. Knowledge of how an addiction can infiltrate the entire family, can help to distinguish between how to help the addict and how to avoid being continuously drawn into unhealthy circumstances.


Getting help through therapy is a great way to gather up a defense against the addiction. Treatment facilities may offer programs that include family sessions which may be useful to help the family to work through the problems that have occurred due to the addiction. If the addict is receiving help through therapeutic means, it is imperative that other family members receive help in the same manner. In a healing family, everyone must be moving forward to the solution instead of being stuck in the mayhem of the past. Setting boundaries, building trust, and healing individually along with healing as a family can be resolved through therapy.


Connection to people that understand addiction because they have been through it with addict’s in their own life, is a great way to learn how to walk through what may seem like the impossible. There are wonderful support groups that point in the way of understanding how to change codependency and enabling while not feeling alone. Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, and CoDA (Co-Dependents Anonymous) are organizations that have been successful in the healing process of a broken family.

These approaches may seem time-consuming. Taking into consideration of how long the addiction has been apparent in family, can put into perspective how long the healing must take place. Healing the addicted family may take time, but it is worth it to gain a family unit that is no longer rooted in the muck of addiction.

You deserve to be ADORNED in your recovery. Life skills, coping tools, education, holistic healing, and a sober support system will help you gain long term sobriety. Serenity Oaks Wellness Center offers a comprehensive treatment program for recovering from drug and alcohol addiction. Call us today for information: 855.652.2683