How to Move Onward with Resentments


People that are stuck in the past keep reliving the things that could have happened months, even years ago. Not letting go of the things of yesteryear can really put a damper on moving forward due to the resentments that keep recurring. The word resentment is usually misunderstood especially with its relevance in keeping someone from getting and staying sober.

The word “resentment” can have a broad terminology. Many people associate resentment purely with anger. There is so much more that can be revealed from one’s resentments. Annoyed, inconvenienced, upset, or feeling let down can all define what a resentment really is. The problem with holding onto resentments is that someone will keep repeatedly experiencing the same emotions which can become counterproductive. Resentment is made up of the prefix “re” which means “again” and the Latin root word “sentir”, which means “to feel”. By breaking down the word in these basic terms, the person that has a resentment will feel anger, annoyance, inconvenience, upset, or let down over and over until they finally work out the resentment within themselves. Most people, unfortunately, are unsure how to work out the resentment and have no inclination on how to move onward.

It is vital for people who are struggling with addiction to get some clarity on how to alleviate themselves from the resentments that have become dangerous for their recovery time and again. The resentments materialize and instead of facing them head on, they stay stuck creating a constant negativity to the subject of the resentment at hand.

Once someone starts looking at their resentments to let go of them, the main objective is to feel their emotions to process them and move on. While anger is a major component of resentment, there is usually more emotion that is attached to the resentment. It is okay to feel sad or disappointed with the people, places, and things in life. In fact, it is recommended to let those pesky feelings out, instead of suppressing them any longer. The freedom that can be initially felt, can be followed by a sense of relief.

There can being a healthy healing process that can take place when an individual is ready to move on from their resentments by liberating the ones that have been contained longer than they needed to be. Human nature renders endless resentments. Learning how to deal with them as they come up, will keep you well-equipped to interact with the rest of the world and keep you moving onward.






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Does A 12-Step Sponsor Know Everything?

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When you get involved in a 12-Step program, one of the main suggestions is to find that person that can be your sponsor. Someone that you can see yourself connecting and building a healthy, trustworthy relationship with.  The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, p18, has an excerpt in the book that describes the qualities that a sponsor should uphold.

“That the man who is making the approach has had the same difficulty, that he obviously knows what he is talking about, that his whole deportment shouts at the new prospect that he is a man with a real answer, that he has no attitude of Holier Than Thou, nothing whatever except the sincere desire to be helpful; that there are no fees to pay, no axes to grind, no people to please, no lectures to be endured – these are the conditions we have found most effective.”

The passage does not state that the sponsor should know everything, or that the sponsor has all the answers to everything. If the sponsor is working their 12-Step program with their sponsor, then hopefully they will be implementing the principles of the program, including humility, and leading a spiritual life.

You can learn how to handle many of your situations by utilizing the experiences that your sponsor has walked through. Even though they may have a similar background to you, you may turn out different results. Learning how to make decisions based off the guidance of your sponsor and through the direction of a Higher Power can show you a better way to live.

There may be a few things that you are enduring that your sponsor has not walked through and that they may not have the capacity to answer due to their unawareness. You can either find the answer to the question by asking someone else in the program that has shared about the same thing, or you can have your sponsor ask their sponsor. This is the beauty of the program. Someone has probably walked through your current plight before and the answer is most likely out there. You can always share in meetings, use your 12-Step book, pray or meditate if you cannot find your immediate answer. Using these tools can take the pressure off your current status to be uplifting and produce the answer you have been looking for all along. The appropriate resolution can come to light for any circumstances that may materialize by using the tools of the program.





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Tips to Avoid Loneliness

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There are people that a live a life of loneliness even though they may be surrounded by numerous people. You may have a huge family, a host of friends, and co-workers and clients that you interact with on a regular basis. Since loneliness is a feeling, your surroundings may not match the emotions running through your mind. Feelings are not facts. Rather, feelings can be inaccurate and keep you from accepting the reality of what is actually going on around you.

With loneliness, you may tell yourself that nobody likes you and that nobody cares about you. In most cases, that is not a factual statement or emotion even though it may only seem like it. There are ways to express your loneliness, so that you are not holding yourself back from letting others rectify your personal solitude.

Talk to someone

Whether it is a sponsor, therapist, trusted friend, or a pastor, talking out loud to someone about what is swimming around in your brain can start the process of bursting your bubble of loneliness. The issues that may be keeping you isolated, can be something that you can work through with the insight of another person’s mental and spiritual feedback.

Validate your relationships

If you are constantly dodging calls, texts, or email, people will begin to think that you are avoiding them, and they will no longer seek to be rejected by you. Answer your friends and family in a timely manner and you will surely see a huge difference in how they will respond to you.

Do what you say

Make plans with others so that you will get you out of the house more often. When the time comes, keep your plans instead of talking yourself out of them. Being flaky gives your loved ones the perception that you do not care about them and at the same time may give you a guilty conscience that may keep you from avoiding them ongoing.

Do something you love

You may have no idea what you like to do because you have not been in pursuit of your hobbies, desires, or dreams. Get out there and figure out what is pleasurable to you. Doing something you love, can retrain your mind to think about something else besides how lonely are.

Loneliness can be paralyzing for some people. Thinking that you are alone is a negative experience that can hold you back from participating with the people, places, and things that you were meant to enjoy. Let yourself be free from loneliness so you can broaden your horizons.





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How Can I Avoid Relapse?

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Whether you are newly sober, or you have been sober for a while, protecting your sobriety at all costs is a must especially when you know that you might be going through a tough season of sobriety.

Reach out

Getting involved in a 12-Step program will give you some much needed support during a trying time. Encouragement and inspiration to stay on the path of recovery can be offered to you by going to meetings and reaching out to your sponsor. Although you may feel like disengaging with others during this time, taking contrary action will produce better results.

Get out

You may feel like you need to hide from the dangers of relapse. The good news is that you can get out and face your demons in a sober atmosphere. If you are feeling weak and drinking or using is all you can think of, you probably should stay away from slippery slopes such as a bar or a party that is full of people that are ready to drink. There are sober activities that can be enjoyed with people like you that want to stay sober too.

Peace out

Give serenity a try. Meditating in any capacity can help you to get centered to remember why you got sober in the first place. Use mindfulness, yoga, or uplifting music to help you reach a peaceful place in your day. Invite others to join you so that you can pass on some peace and goodwill to all.

Shout out

One of the best ways to help you to stay sober is to get your mind off your addiction and put your hand out to someone else in need. Especially if you are a member of a 12-Step program, there is always somebody that would benefit from the support that you have to offer. Call other addicts to ask how they are doing. Go to a meeting to help set up or greet people at the door with a smile.





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How to Make Getting Sober a New Year’s Resolution

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You might be asking yourself if you are crazy to be getting sober at New Year’s. You are not. There is no time like the present to become sober right now. It does not matter that this is the time of the year that many folks get hammered because of the holidays. Focus on you and what you need to do. Having a problem with drugs and alcohol is something that needs to be taken care of. The most important resolutions are meant to bring about changes with things that have become a problem.

Most New Year’s resolutions invoke something having to do with health issues and use support to do it. This is no different. Drugs and alcohol deteriorate the body like nobody’s business and most people that are struggling with addiction need help to stop.


  • Get involved in a 12-Step Program


Becoming part of a recovery program such as Alcoholic Anonymous (AA) or Narcotics Anonymous (NA), can make the difference in your sobriety. A 12-Step Program outlines the method of how to get sober and stay sober. The best part about getting involved in a 12-Step Program is that you do not have to do alone. There are people that are just like you waiting to support you in your need.


  • Support is key


Having people around you that you relate to or that truly understand the pain that has been caused from your addiction can be substantive to your recovery. Isolating only makes matters worse because you are unable to work through the issues that need to be resolved. Ask for help and give back that support when you can.


  • Make getting sober your number one priority


There will always be something in your mind that is more important than getting sober until you get sober. Once you do get sober, putting your sobriety first will make everything fall into place more effortlessly. The honest truth is that everything suffers while you are active in your addiction. You are unable to take of the care of things that need to be taken care of when you are impaired by drugs and alcohol.


  • Look for longevity instead of instant gratification


It is normal to want the things you want when you want them. There is a process that must take place with sobriety that just cannot happen overnight. Application to recovery principles and solution is what will help to keep you sober one day at a time.

The best resolution you can make for New Year’s, or any day for that matter, is to stay sober. Addiction causes turmoil and by living in the resolution, you are on the right track to make the firm decision of recovery.






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What is Naloxone?


The opioid crisis has become a national nightmare that has put our country under a Public Health Emergency in the recent months. Narcotic abuse has taken the United States by storm and has become a major concern with the number of overdoses that continue to result from morphine, oxycodone, and heroin use. While the only way to prevent overdose a 100 percent is through complete abstinence, there is a highly effective prescription medication that can temporarily block the effects of opioids.

Naloxone is used as a medication-assisted treatment to counter an opioid overdose. Known as Narcan in the medical industry, once an overdose from opioids is discovered, the medication can be administered to bring back someone who requires immediate emergency medical attention. Recognizing the signs of overdose are important to assess the situation. Someone who has a grayish-blue skin color and has become unresponsive with erratic breathing along with sounds that resemble gurgling or faint snoring has the propensity to overdose.

The medication can be given to someone that has overdosed through a few different methods. Naloxone can be injected intravenously or into the muscle which must be administered by someone has been trained to do so. An intranasal spray can also be dispensed to someone that is laying on their back. Another choice is the auto-injectable device that can be injected into the inner thigh through the skin to stop the symptoms of overdose.

Ultimately Naloxone is a relatively safe medication that can be of real use to someone that is experiencing an overdose. A doctor should be notified if any of these serious side of effects of Naloxone present themselves once the medication has been disbursed.

  • Chest pain
  • Heart palpitations
  • Severe nausea
  • Migraines
  • Ear ringing
  • Wheezing
  • Shortness of breath  
  • Faintness
  • Seizure
  • Decreased pulse

Signs of withdrawal can become prevalent with the cessation of narcotics in someone’s system especially if they are addicted to opioids.

  • Muscle pain
  • Gastrointestinal discomfort
  • Restlessness
  • Anxiety
  • Increased heart rate

There are risks that can be prevented to help the proclivity for someone to overdose. A fatality from opioid overdose can happen when an individual mistakenly takes an unrecommended dose of a prescription opioid, knowingly uses an illicit drug, takes medication that is prescribed for someone else, or if drugs and alcohol are mixed with opioids. Being careless and exercising addictive behaviors could make all the difference between life and death.





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The Stages of Meth Intoxication

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Methamphetamine is a highly- addictive white crystalline drug known by the names of crystal meth, meth, crank, chalk, ice, or glass. Users find that its effects mark an individual with a unsurmountable false sense of well-being. Meth can be consumed by inhaling it, snorting it, or injecting it. The experience of the drug starts with an euphoric high that usually evolves into a rather destructive lifestyle of drug abuse. The stages of meth are a useful way of seeing how influential this drug really is.

The Rush

Stage one of meth can be experienced with a higher blood pressure, metabolism, and pulse, creating pleasurable feelings from dopamine being released into the brain. This can last up to about 30 minutes when the meth initially reaches the user.

The High

This stage will last anywhere from 4-16 hours. Users of meth become more aggressive and belligerent due to the invincibility that many consumers feel throughout their high. Generally, they become fixated on an action that they will continue do for hours on end such as fixing a computer or cleaning the same area repeatedly.

The Binge

Lasting anywhere from 3-15 days, the next stage of meth keeps an individual constantly searching for their next high. The effects of meth become less the more the user takes, although they will keep consuming it until there is no high that can be achieved at all. The binger will shift into an increasingly more mental and physical manic state.

The Tweak

Once the user is unable to get high, they begin to feel empty and begin to panic that they cannot relieve the cravings they feel. The person who is “tweaking” has probably been awake for days, so they may reach a psychosis that makes their perception completely disconnected from the rest of the world while literally feeling like they are crawling out of their skin.

The Crash

A body can only take so much of meth abuse and once the body has had enough, it will completely shut down forcing a user to sleep possibly anywhere from 1-3 days.

The Hangover

Because meth keeps a user from wanting to eat, sleep or take care of their hygiene, they will finally feel what their body has been put through with their drug abuse. The hangover displays the mental, physical, and emotional deterioration that is invoked by methamphetamine.

The Withdrawal

During this final stage, the user will start to feel dope sick, achy, and debilitated while enduring intense drug cravings. Feeling depressed and possibly suicidal is very common during a withdrawal.

Methamphetamines are no joke when it comes to the stages that come after taking them. They are highly addictive while taking out all the resources that the body needs to function. All the while, users develop a dependence that can only be eased by taking more meth to repeat the insidious cycle of addiction.






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Is Alcohol or Cannabis More Harmful?


The debate of whether alcohol or cannabis is more harmful has been a perpetual question for decades on decades. The country is still divided on deciding if marijuana should be legalized. Since the 1930’s, marijuana has been classified as a schedule one controlled substance by the Drug Enforcement Agency (DEA) that has kept it illegal for all uses including medicinal.  

As far as the physical effects that alcohol and marijuana have on an individual, there are more reports of fatalities by alcohol abuse than there are about cannabis. There is little doubt and a ton of research to prove that alcohol is the most destructive drug in the world since it is considered to be 114 times deadlier than any other drug. In 2012, the World Health Organization stated that were over 3 million deaths alone due to drinking alcohol. Marijuana pales into comparison to those statistics of alcohol, however marijuana is still a mind-altering substance that can be addicting in some people.

The difference between an alcohol addiction and a cannabis addiction is that alcohol completely deteriorates the body the longer and harder one drinks. Alcohol has had continuous reports of deaths, injuries, cancer, overdoses, and a variety of other maladies that are caused by the over-indulgence of alcohol. While marijuana can be addicting to some, it is not as injurious or fatal as alcohol. In fact, to overdose on cannabis, one would have to ingest a thousand percent more of a single dose to get to that point.  

Both drugs are dangerous when it comes to driving under the influence which must not be overlooked. Although you hear more about drunk driving, driving under the influence of marijuana is just as threatening in the exact same way. Being impaired while driving puts so many of the lives of others in harm’s way, as well as the person that is driving. Alcohol and weed both jeopardize balance and coordination and take away the ability to make sound decisions for someone’s well-being. Being drunk or high leads to more risky behaviors that includes driving under the influence and unprotected sex.

While both drugs have their positive and negative points, alcohol is more harmful than cannabis on many different levels. The one thing that should be a definite, is that driving under the influence of any mind-altering substance should be discouraged to anyone anywhere. Take a cab, get an Uber, or use a designated driver to help keep the roads safe.





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Coping with Fatigue from Depression

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Depression affects 350 million people worldwide and is the leading cause of disability in the United States. Changes in mood, behavior, appetite, and cognitions happen with someone who is struggling with depression. These changes can make a person become fatigued and lethargic which is one of the main differences that becomes noticeable.

Fatigue is detrimental to someone who has battled with depression. Once a person is depressed they tend to withdraw socially and from activities that they once deemed enjoyable. Endurance and energy levels start changing once depression starts becoming even more prominent. This individual will start isolating and keep their bodies from being stimulated in the healthy fashion that it needs with physical movement. Without the body operating with normal function, the person becomes more depressed and more fatigued connecting the two circuitously.

There are many things that fatigued directly affects especially with someone with depression. Everything slows down when depression is present. Motor skills can become decelerated which makes people more sluggish in even the most typically active person. Not being able to function in the way they have in the past can affect a person’s confidence and morale.

Fatigue can become an overwhelming part of depression although a few adjustments to an individual’s life can make the difference in making them feel healthier.


  • Changes in diet


Food is meant to be energy for the body. If the diet consists mostly of excessive sugar and simple carbohydrates, the blood sugar will be higher than it needs to be making them feel listless. Eating food rich in nutrients and vitamins that provide energy are the best options for someone with depression.


  • Regulate sleep


Set a time to wake and a time to go to bed. Having a schedule to abide by can help to keep a person from staying in bed too long and getting out to do more productive things with their time.


  • Exercise regularly


Getting your blood flowing can help to balance a person’s mood by increasing nerve cell growth in the hippocampus of the brain which oversees improving the state of the mind.

Seeking professional help is recommended when trying to deal with the symptoms of depression. Onset depression can be diagnosed with the help of a health care professional. The brain’s chemistry can be better regulated sometimes with medication and working with a therapist can help work out the feelings that can be intensified during depression.





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What Happens When You Mix Alcohol and Antidepressants?


People struggling with depression will feel lonely and isolated while feeling powerless to their current mood. Depression is a disorder that should be treated with the assistance of a healthcare provider because without help, the illness can continue to progress with persistent sadness and hopelessness. During depression, the brain function becomes imbalanced from the chemicals in the brain that work inside and outside nerve cells that determine perceptions and moods. There are many causes to depression such as stressful life events, genetic predisposition, medical problems, and inadequate mood regulation.

SSRIs (Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors) and MAOIs (Monoamine oxidase inhibitors) are antidepressants that benefit people by keeping the serotonin from being reabsorbed back into the brain which makes more serotonin readily available for the brain to knock out depression. Getting on antidepressants may help to alleviate some symptoms to help people feel better when they are depressed. Once prescribed by a doctor, the antidepressant will work to balance out some of the chemicals in the brain that may be out of whack. Antidepressants are responsible for producing the chemicals that make individuals feel good by the taking the recommended dosage to increase the concentration of the brain’s neurotransmitters that must communicate with each other.  

There may be an experimental period to see which antidepressants are better suited for each individual. Side effects and interactions from other drugs, including alcohol, can sometimes limit how efficient they will work for each person. Since alcohol is a depressant and the purpose of the antidepressant is to keep a person from being depressed, the two will most surely counteract one another.

While the SSRIs are busy helping to build serotonin, the alcohol does just the opposite by decreasing the levels of serotonin. The effectiveness of the antidepressants will recede making someone feel even more depressed and possibly suicidal. An individual may think that having an occasional drink will be fine, but the likelihood of the medication doing what it is supposed to do, will be lessened by joining the two together. Another reason to stop drinking while someone is on antidepressants is that depression can also lead to an increased risk of becoming addicted to alcohol.

Being prescribed an MAOI for depression, could cause a significant rise in blood pressure to put someone at risk for stroke and other complications with the combination of alcohol and the MAOI. The liver has a harder time disposing of the toxins which can also cause fatal toxicity when mixing the two together.

Incorporating alcohol with antidepressants produces adverse effects that can be detrimental to a person’s recovery and health. If someone is depressed enough to be on medication, they should probably just skip the alcohol altogether.


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